What to Expect Before, During
and After Divorce
SHOULD I LEAVE OR STAY IN MY MARRIAGE?
I have been betrayed.
I have been devalued.
I do not feel appreciated.
I am not happy anymore.
NOW THAT THE DIVORCE IS IN PROCESS…
How do I talk to my children about divorce?
I do not understand the divorce paperwork.
Can we fast forward to getting this done?
I am confused about my future.
THE DIVORCE HAS BEEN
I feel like he/she won everything.
I do not understand the visitation schedules.
I will never find love again.
I will never trust or get married again.
When a parent tries to make their ex-spouse’s life miserable, it is the kids who feel the most misery.
Benefits of Coaching
1. EMOTIONAL SUPPORT
A break up is often compared with a death of a loved one as the person that once you trusted, loved and cherished is no longer there for you. There will be periods of mourning and hurt, but just like when we overcome the death of a loved one, this one too shall pass! Keeping your emotions in check while going through your divorce will help you to make better decisions. Composure is important when meeting with your attorney as you will need a clear head to make the right demands.
In many instances, we are too busy dealing with our own emotions without realizing the impact the divorce has on our children. Their world has changed too. If visitations are ordered after the divorce or separation, the contact with an ex is inevitable and it will be there for years to come. I will refer you to materials that will teach you how to talk to your children about the situation as well as how to take control of your emotions to make the necessary efforts to “make nice” with your ex for the sake of your children. After all, they are the collateral damage and they have gone through enough in the process.
3. SURVIVING DIVORCE
Congratulations your divorce is over! Now what? Many of us think that when a divorce dispute is over all the problems end. Wrong. Soon we realize that another set of problems arises. Insecurity, low self-esteem, anger, resentment and hopelessness are only a few of the issues that a single person/parent has to deal with after a divorce. Some situations are harder than others but with guidance, you can transform negative emotions into positive actions. Once you learn organization, independence, strength and self-worth, the knowledge will stay with you always.